When I was in my twenties, and newly married, I read the book, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”. Although I understood the philosophy behind the author’s take on relationships, it still didn’t make things better for me and my husband. We continued to argue, and continued to be confused by each other’s actions, moods and behaviors.
It wasn’t until we’d divorced, 19 years later, that it finally hit me that men and women are just inherently DIFFERENT! These differences cause us not to see things in the same light. Women tend to be more optimistic, while our counterparts like to think of themselves as “realists”. These differences, on more occasions than none, cause many MANY arguments between the two diversely different sexes. This then leads to frustration, fatigue, and sometimes even disdain 💔.
At the current level of misunderstanding and confusion, regarding the opposite sex, relationships are sure to become extinct, leaving people to only have casual hookups, relationships with absolutely no meaning. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. The trick to not throwing your hands up and walking away from commitment is to understand that the differences between men and women are universal. This means that the silly, but very annoying quirks that your mate has, your friend is probably having the SAME issues with their mate. Go and ask them, I’ll wait….
Ok, are you convinced, yet? Well then, before ditching your relationships for some casual “situationships”, try really evaluating it. Ask yourself if what irks you about your mate is worth throwing him or her to someone else. Remember, one person’s trash is another person’s treasure. Taking the easy way out basically means that you’re either willing to start over with somebody new, who will probably have the SAME or similar quirks as the person you walked away from, or spending your days and nights playing love roulette. In your evaluation, ask yourself what the pros and cons, good and bad are of your relationship. If there are more pros and good, then learn to effectively communicate with your mate, and in the process, learn the art of walking away from the minor pettiness 💘.