Woman Are Women, Men Are Men

When I was in my twenties, and newly married, I read the book, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”. Although I understood the philosophy behind the author’s take on relationships, it still didn’t make things better for me and my husband. We continued to argue, and continued to be confused by each other’s actions, moods and behaviors.

It wasn’t until we’d divorced, 19 years later, that it finally hit me that men and women are just inherently DIFFERENT! These differences cause us not to see things in the same light. Women tend to be more optimistic, while our counterparts like to think of themselves as “realists”. These differences, on more occasions than none, cause many MANY arguments between the two diversely different sexes. This then leads to frustration, fatigue, and sometimes even disdain 💔.

At the current level of misunderstanding and confusion, regarding the opposite sex, relationships are sure to become extinct, leaving people to only have casual hookups, relationships with absolutely no meaning. However, it doesn’t have to be this way. The trick to not throwing your hands up and walking away from commitment is to understand that the differences between men and women are universal. This means that the silly, but very annoying quirks that your mate has, your friend is probably having the SAME issues with their mate. Go and ask them, I’ll wait….

Ok, are you convinced, yet? Well then, before ditching your relationships for some casual “situationships”, try really evaluating it. Ask yourself if what irks you about your mate is worth throwing him or her to someone else. Remember, one person’s trash is another person’s treasure. Taking the easy way out basically means that you’re either willing to start over with somebody new, who will probably have the SAME or similar quirks as the person you walked away from, or spending your days and nights playing love roulette. In your evaluation, ask yourself what the pros and cons, good and bad are of your relationship. If there are more pros and good, then learn to effectively communicate with your mate, and in the process, learn the art of walking away from the minor pettiness 💘.


When You Know You’ve Been Scolded

Sometimes we can easily miss God’s voice. But sometimes He squares up and slaps us right in the face. Well, God just slapped the heck out of me! Somebody posted something that I felt was written with me in mind, and IMMEDIATELY I went to my page, and clapped back, tactfully though 😉. Of course, if I keep it real with myself, there are only a few reasons why I would assume that I was a part of this person’s social media declaration. Either we had an active beef, somebody had put a bug in my ear, I had done something to incite it, or somebody else was inciting drama between us. Anyway, after making my post, I was suddenly reminded that I had not read my bible plan that morning, so I disconnected myself from social media, and started reading my day 5 of 10 reading plan. The moment when I “suddenly” remembered to read my bible plan was when I realized that God was “scolding” me. However, when I read His word, I knew that He was indeed slapping some sense into me:

God: “Here are the two ways we judge others: when you see someone’s actions and you make an estimate as to the value or worth of that person, or when you think you know why he did what he did”.

This was exactly what I had just done when I read the person’s post. How many people haven’t done the same thing? Well fortunately, God is an awesome and forgiving teacher who shows us how to overcome this type of thinking, which when you think about it, is quite burdensome.

I said all of that to say this, we, as “kids”, are going to do dumb s***, but like most “parents” God is going to scold us, guide us and continue to love us. The trick to all of it is to not continue doing the same exact dumb s***.<<<<

What is Acting and Talking Black/White?

It amazes me how unreal, we as people, can be. Too many times I see people acting dumbfounded by a simple statement, formed by one and two syllable words. Anybody who’s been around a variety of people, blacks and whites, in particularly, know very well what is meant by the phrase “acting or talking black/white”. Let’s be honest, there are in deed certain things, such as style, mannerisms, and vernacular that are generally seen more within one group/race than another. Now, with that card being played, and no it’s not the “race card”, let’s take another look at the phrase “acting or talking black/white”. First, let’s clear up what it is NOT. A person who acts or talks black is no less intelligent than somebody who acts or talks white, just as a person who acts or talks white is no more intelligent.

So what exactly is acting/talking black/white? Often times it’s a cultural thing, meaning that people are generally a product of their environment. In other words, if a black person is raised around white people, they’re more than likely going to develop their sense of style, their mannerisms and their way of speaking from that culture. Unfortunately, this often times leads to them being labeled as “acting and talking white” by blacks not raised in that culture. This, however, has absolutely nothing to do with their level of intellect, which brings me to another point. WHY are blacks, and EVERYTHING they (we) do, always considered to be less than that of their racial counterparts?? People born into a racist and/or Marxist society have been generationally brainwashed to believe that being white equates to superiority, while being black equates to struggle and inferiority. While the former is real, the latter is NOT. It’s true that because of this brainwashing, and also “black history”, black people have, for the most part, had to struggle to obtain a portion of the success afforded to white people by birthright, heritage and legacy. The same goes for a white person raised predominantly around black people; they’re going to adopt the ways of that group, yet, it doesn’t mean they’re budheads and unemployed derelicts.

So, the next time you hear a black or white person acting or talking in a manner that’s not typically associated with their race, unless you know that it’s some fake wannabe bullshit, which does exist, but that’s another blog for another day, don’t turn your nose up at them and assume that it’s because they’re trying to be something that they’re not because it could simply be due to how they were raised.

To Have or Not to Have… a Resolution, That is

So I resolve to not waste my time making frivolous January 1st resolutions that I probably won’t be thinking about, come January 8th, if it even takes that long to become wishful thinking. So today, I simply resolve to be better today, January 1st, than I was yesterday, December 31st. This will be my goal everyday of the year, until December 31, 2018. Happy New Year!!

What’s Right Today May be Wrong Tomorrow

Sometimes things feel right at the moment, but once you engage in it, God reveals that it’s not by giving you feelings of boredom, a lack of excitement, a lack of motivation, etc. Everything isn’t for everybody. Finding your passion may take some trial and error, but once you’ve discovered it you’ll feel a sense of peace, and be able to do it with ease, and with a smile on your face. Go into 2018 discovering YOU, and what makes YOU happy.

So-Called in America

I was asked if I was a “liberal” or “conservative”. Growing up, as a black child, I learned to be democratic because “they stood for us”, so I almost answered “definitely liberal”. But then thinking back on my people’s history with the United States Government, despite the so-called Constitution, I decided to really think about my answer. So I did a comparison of the two by definition and examples.

It’s funny how reading the definitions and examples really opened my eyes to the fact that we, as black people, are only voting to exercise a right in which we are literally only choosing the lesser of two evils. Do we want the government to control everything, in the form of “helping” (liberalism), or want it to afford us these so-called “freedoms & liberties” that are really only afforded to white people, and MANY other non-blacks (conservatism)??

And the saddest part is that even the blacks, who are in office, are majority traitors who are afraid to stand up for the rest of us for fear of being pushed back into the conditions from which they come from (at some point in time/history).

Is any of this really applicable to the voiceless, forgotten and disrespected people who look like me, aka so-called African “Americans”??

The story below kind of co-signed my thoughts on the subject.